Hi friends, how are you doing? For some reason January has been a difficult month for me to keep up my weekly writing schedule. This is the second time that I have contemplated not writing my post for the week because of how I feel. It’s like right after I published my new year post ‘I’m ready for change’ the Universe took that as a signal to try to see what I’m really made of. If I can keep going no matter what. If I will crack under the pressure. If I will give up, and go incognito until all my worries go away. Well I’m happy to report that I haven’t given in, not even close. If anything I am just more determined to realize the dreams and goals that I had set out for myself this year. I said I was going to continue to write and share on a consistent basis and I intend to do so with a smile on my face!
A love that feels safe.
The theme of this weeks post is love and more specifically a love that feels safe. What does that mean to you? To me a love that feels safe is a relationship/marriage in which both partners feel at home with each other. There are no lies, secrets, hidden feelings, ulterior motives, abusive, disrespectful or toxic behaviors present. There are no reasons to feel suspicious or uneasy about the person you have committed to love for the rest of your life because they never give you any reasons to suspect them. You are open and honest with each other about all your feelings, good and bad. You can tell them your fears, insecurities and things that make you uncomfortable and instead of judging you they understand. You are each other’s second best friend (God is my first best friend ❤️) and priority. Your trust and bond is so strong that were you ever to shout on the roof top to claim they are yours and they have your heart, there would be no fear of ridicule or humiliation from close observers. I don’t know if I’m old fashioned (although I really think I am) or I watch too many movies, but this is what a love that feels safe looks like to me.
I think everyone has their own definition of what a love that feels safe means to them. We all have different experiences in life that lead us to view things in different ways, especially in love and relationships. I also believe that learning from others is an important part of life and that is why I wrote this post and want it to serve as a venting space for you. Share anything you want concerning love, let us learn from you and you from us. To start off the conversation I want to know what does “a love that feels safe” mean to you? If your married or have been in a loving relationship for a very long time do you mind sharing some advice on what constitutes a great relationship between two people? How do you keep going when things get tough? If you have ever been hurt before (not high school hurt but real adult relationship hurt), how did you move past the pain? Did you forgive the person and are you still together? I hope you don’t mind my prying questions, I just really want to know and learn from you because I would like to believe that the kind of love I believe in actually exists. Thank you so much for reading and see you in my next post!