deleting everything and starting over

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Hi friends, how are you doing? 2019 is almost upon us and I have been thinking about where I was this time last year. I remember being fed up, annoyed, dissatisfied, overwhelmed and very frustrated with my blogging journey. At that point I wasn’t on WordPress, I was using the Wix platform because I felt it was easier to create a blog from scratch (without having knowledge of css). That was the time (the very last time) I would ever decide to give up on my blog and quit. Fast forward one year later and here I am with a whole new journey but this time it feels right. Using WordPress feels right. Words by Wildflower feels right. What I’ve chosen to write about feels right. My theme and layout feel so right. I am so grateful that I decided to delete everything and start over. I couldn’t see it then but without doing so Words by Wildflower would have never been created.

Words by Wildflower.

My blog was previously known as Living Simple and Natural. The reason I named it this was because I was on a journey of trying to live simply/minimally and I thought I would document my journey here on my blog. I used to have several posts about minimalism but as I reached closer to my goal of learning to live and be happy with less stuff (which is the essence of minimalism) I felt like I didn’t need to keep sharing and writing about it anymore. After this discovery I slowly but surely deleted every single post I had written that concerned simple living and minimalism. I did this because I wanted my blog to feel more generic so that I could write and share about anything I wanted not just minimalism. It is for that reason that on December 8th I took the impulsive action of changing my domain name from Living Simple and Natural to Words by Wildflower. In literally one night I had an entirely new blog name and against the advice of the Happiness Engineer assisting me, I went ahead and deleted my old domain name and removed its link back to my blog (with the exception of comments, because even if you change your domain name the old one still shows up in older comments).

Delete everything. Start over.

I wasn’t reflecting just because of my journey but also because I wanted to let you know that it’s okay to delete everything and start over. I was a little bit afraid to change my blog name and delete some of my old posts that were performing well and people seemed to love because I thought my readers wouldn’t like the new direction that my blog was going. But when I made the change I felt so much happier because my blog felt more personal to me and I now have the freedom to write about anything I want without feeling like im drifting away from a specific topic. And if you think about it deleting everything and starting over doesn’t have to be specific to your blog or creative journey, it can also be related to your own personal life. I did a lot of deleting this past year, in my relationships, belongings and thoughts, it has been the best decision of my life so far. It’s not an easy thing to do but with careful introspection, I’m sure you will also get to a place of happiness and contentment. I never thought I would reach this point but I guess I needed the clarity that ‘starting over’ brings in order to start my journey with a new perspective. Entering 2019 I’m starting over with a lot of things; my relationships, creative journey, mental habits so on and so forth.

Final thoughts.

Deleting everything and starting over may sound like a scary thing at first but as you do it gradually you will eventually start to see the benefits of doing it. I am so happy I made the decision to start over with a lot of things and people and I am never turning back. It gave me a clean slate to start my life exactly how I want it and I’m so happy about that. But before I leave I have a few questions for you? Is there anything in your life you would like to ‘delete’ and start over? Do you mind sharing what it is? Are you open to starting 2019 on a clean slate by deleting anything and everything that doesn’t make or contribute to your happiness? Do you mind sharing your answer? Please feel free to share your thoughts, they are always welcome here! Thank you so much for reading and see you in my next post!

106 thoughts on “deleting everything and starting over

  1. I’ve always been very against just deleting everything, but I think that’s because my blog is around writing and that’s a skill that improves over time. Having the old stuff there shows me how much I’ve progressed and from time to time I’ll go back and find elements that fell to the wayside that I really liked and then choose to bring back.
    Best of luck to you with starting over, I hope it all works out.

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    1. Thanks so much Carol! I can see where your coming from, and I think of I wasn’t such a perfectionist I wouldn’t mind having my older posts still up to see how my writing has progressed. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, I wish you the very best in 2019 ❤️

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  2. Hi there! I really enjoyed your post. It’s interested because I’ve been on WordPress for several years and I love everything about it. But I am in the midst of writing a book and I thought that I should delete the blog, but I’m glad that I changed my mind!!! I believe that 2019 will simply be a continuation of my journey, instead of a “Do Over!” I look forward to read more of your posts. Happy New Year!

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    1. Thank you very much and congratulations on writing a book! I’m glad you made the decision that worked best for you which was to not delete your blog and I wish you well on your journey in 2019 ❤️☺️

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  3. Don’t we all feel this way one time or another. I just deleted all content on melsoliloquy.com for that reason. Started over. Don’t know where I’m goung but… Im going! Lol!

    Welcome to fiction! Enjoy the journey.

    Hugs!

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  4. This post resonated with me because I’m still trying to figure out how I want to blog on WordPress (have been at it for years!). While I’m not going to delete my old posts, I agree that pruning and cutting away relationships and commitments that don’t fit you is a good way to live life. Thanks for finding me blog and I’m excited to read more from you!

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  5. When it feels right, do it. I had a blog Life’s Ride As I See It for almost 8 years. I too deleted every single post. It was a motorcycle blog and I felt the same as you being limited with words. Deep breaths got me through it. It was a good choice. The feeling of no restrictions obviously works for you too.

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    1. Wow, 8 years is a long time! That was so brave of you and I’m so happy that you made that decision! I can only imagine how hard it was writing about motorcycles for 8 whole years! I can barely write a paragraph about them because I have no clue about them. I commend you for sticking with the topic for so long. And Blogging without feeling restricted to a specific subject is definitely liberating and I’m glad you can relate to that as well. Thanks so much for sharing ❤️

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  6. Did a similar thing with my blog on my birthday back in September, it used to be an opinion blog but then I switched to creative writing and I am so much happier. Deleted everything from before my birthday and moved on. 🙂

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  7. Reblogged this on Notes and commented:
    Breaking one of my own rules to not read or participate in anonymous blogs, especially where someone is used to deleting everything to start over, I feel a bit hesitant in sharing my own opinion only in the comments section which could be one day gone. Hence this reblog.

    Btw, this is one of the many anonymous (yet interesting) blogs that I wish to read but totally powerless to some of my own principles. Every word that we write, every thought that comes to our minds, they can all be proven wrong. But in that particular moment, they were right, precious and sort of eternal in their own sense.

    There’s nothing wrong in documenting our journey to sanity as it might be interesting (and a learning) experience for someone in our shoes someday.

    And since “wordsbywildflower”, the anonymous blogger will someday delete this post (too), hence I’d quote some of his/her words I found interesting enough;

    “But when I made the change I felt so much happier because my blog felt more personal to me and I now have the freedom to write about anything I want without feeling like im drifting away from a specific topic.

    And if you think about it deleting everything and starting over doesn’t have to be specific to your blog or creative journey, it can also be related to your own personal life. I did a lot of deleting this past year, in my relationships, belongings and thoughts, it has been the best decision of my life so far.

    It’s not an easy thing to do but with careful introspection, I’m sure you will also get to a place of happiness and contentment.

    I never thought I would reach this point but I guess I needed the clarity that ‘starting over’ brings in order to start my journey with a new perspective. Entering 2019 I’m starting over with a lot of things; my relationships, creative journey, mental habits so on and so forth.”

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  8. I love this post and all the comments too; thanks for sharing. I usually can’t quite bring myself to delete things, no matter how badly I’d like to, however I have started over a number of times and I sometimes “unpublish” temporarily whenever that helps me feel more free. Now I’ve got such a mess all over the worldwide webs that I’m not sure what to do about it. On my best days I feel a total loving non-attachment to it — i.e. “Universe, it’s up to you what you wanna do with it all, buddy!” On other days I’d like to have a digital bonfire. 🙂

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  9. I have done it all – abandoned a blog without deleting it, deleting a reasonably successful blog, starting new blogs and posting very infrequently, and so forth. I think the best is to keep a themed blog and blog on that theme on that blog, and then start another blog with a different name (but your same username) that is wide open. That seemed to work well for me.

    But if your head is in a different place, you can’t continue in that vein. The problem with deleting blogs is the comments, which are irreplaceable. Hopefully you’ve saved the posts somewhere.

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    1. Hi Mister Hyde! I definitely agree with you that along with deleting a blog you lose the comments as well. I’ve had that dilemma when deciding wether to delete a blog post or not and found that it doesn’t matter. People will comment and engage regardless if you decide to delete something, so long as they genuinely enjoy what you have to say they will continue to comment on future posts and even more than the older ones you decided to delete ❤️ thank you so much for sharing ☺️

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      1. I just meant that sometimes comments are better and more engaging than the posts, certainly more organic, and it can hurt to delete them. Can, but it subsides eventually.

        I’ve certainly deleted comments before, by themselves and as part of an entire blog, and I don’t look back. I still talk to the people I like, so that works out.
        Have a great night, or whatever daypart it is in the time zone you’re in!

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      2. Oh I understand what you mean and that is true, comments are sometimes better to read than the actual post. I tend to understand a post better if I look at the comments and see what people are saying about the topic. Thank you so much for sharing and it’s evening for me, have a great night too!

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  10. So refreshing to read! When “it’s time”, the fear of starting over gradually fades..

    I’d be deleting friendships that no longer serve me. No use hanging on to people who stop making an effort.
    This is to make room for the ones who want a seat at my table ☺

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  11. ‘deleting everything and starting over doesn’t have to be specific to your blog or creative journey, it can also be related to your own personal life.’, I absolutely believe in this! Yes, the shackles of past are our own doing. We hold onto them, because letting go would be the hardest thing to do, so it seems. But come 2019 I will work harder to let go, to begin again, to be happier 🙂

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  12. Done this before, my current blog is in its third iteration. The previous two I abandoned/deleted largely because they didn’t fit what I was trying to go for. To distracted, no clear focus, and frankly… no initiative lol. Writing is art, and art takes time to grow, make all the adjustments you need, all the clean slates required before you nail it down, in the end nobody can judge you except you.

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  13. This post came at the apt timing in my life. I am at a crossroads now in my relationship. And as much as I feel it’s such a waste to give up on, I do not feel the same anymore about us. This is due to the constant rebellion to change from my partner. And I can not make anyone change against their own will and I can not demand a timeline to change either cos that would be unfair and unrealistic. So as much as there is some love left but whatever that has been done can’t be undone and I think the time for us has to pass soon. If not it will drag on to a time that I myself can’t predict nor manage. It’s okay to delete and starting over back again. But now … how do I let him know…that that time has come. And there’s no reversing back the clock, only forward.

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    1. I think it would be good to just have an open and honest conversation. No sugar coating anything especially this time around if you want to start the new year on a clean slate. I hope you do what feels right and is best for you, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts ❤️

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  14. I think I named my blog appropriately to flow with my growth. I don’t feel I need to delete anything to grow going forward. I do wish I could erase some of the events that have happened in my country…but that’s a whole other story. 🤔

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    1. Aww sorry about that ❤️ but I’m glad that you have some contentment that you don’t need to delete anything. I wish you the very best this coming new year. thanks so much for sharing your thoughts ☺️

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  15. I’ll answer your questions on my journal soon, Driving, through this traffic leaving one of Atlanta’s largest malls, texting you, is challenging.
    Kidding, I don’t look at my phone driving, explain later.
    Point: Starting all over on a blog, changing theme, goals, purpose, and name is great. I’ve had many blogs and names. Terrorized Twitter under many accounts and names. And other things. However, like someone else who recently told how they could see their improvement over years, I think much can be learned.
    Good news, I guess, the writings on your domain name lives forever. You can recover it. Not reactivate but recover your writing, I have and believe it was on WordPress. Peace.

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  16. I wanted to comment on some other of your posts about your blogging journey, but they were closed. Congratulations on your success here! I am also worried about my content and sharing it. I’m concerned I’m not engaging enough because a rarely get a comment. I ask questions and try to tell interesting stories. It’s bothersome as I have a degree in Communications and Journalism. Anyway, good for you!

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    1. Thank you Jana, and I understand what your going through because I used to be on the same boat. I would just say keep going, some day you’ll have your own eureka moment and you will have more engagement than you can handle ❤️ thank you so much for sharing!

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  17. I regularly delete my blogs and start over. I’m eying up my Facebook these days too…
    It feels good, doesn’t it?
    I’m not sure what I’d delete and start over … maybe my parenting days. Actually, nope. If I did that I wouldn’t have these grandbabies. And these grandbabies are my everything! ❤ I'm thinking nothing really. I think things happen and you learn and move on. That in itself is a kind of deletion. Moving on. Moving forward.
    Happy Holidays!

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  18. HUGE & bold move!

    I’m not a minimalist (at all!), but this resonated with my experience in the last couple of days in getting a new phone.

    I have been putting it off for months, but my old one was getting more and more unreliable. So in the process of negotiating a phone, a new plan, a contract, yadda yadda, they offer me a new phone number.

    I have had my old number for over 20 years. I hesitated, and reached into myself. I took a breath, and decided that it felt *right* for whatever reason.

    So.. new year, new number, starting over. There will be people that will never be able to contact me again, and that’s ok.

    It also forces me to redo my business cards (another job I have been putting off!).

    Congratulations on your fresh start!

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    1. Oh wow! I’m so happy for you! 20 years is a super long time to have the same number, how did you do it? I change my number at least once every five years lol I’m so happy for you starting the new year with a new number 🥰 happy holidays and all the best in 2019 ❤️

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  19. Thank you for a very thought provoking post! I am expecting major changes in 2019 as I am finally reaching my early retirement goal in 2 months.I have been contemplating the idea of changing my phone number wgen I retire and not transfering my phone contacts= deleting my whole phone contacts.they are mostly work related.i wonder if I will do that eventually…your post got me back on track with that idea.merry xmas and a great new year!!

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  20. I too have been glad I changed to WordPress, should have done it sooner. I still have my website which we started with 1&1 when we had no idea what we were doing and ended up with two domains! I was blogging on Goodreads, but have given that up. WordPress feels like you can connect with everyone, good luck. I like Words by Wildflower as name for your blog and look forward to following.

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  21. I’m happy for you. You found the courage to do what you feel like doing.

    And I myself have also deleted all content from my blog last year and it gave me a fresh start.

    So I will be looking forward to the new you. 😊

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  22. I have hit the proverbial delete button more times than I can count. Most times it was a good idea. Overall I think it helps us see that reality is fluid and creative and limitless. There is no need for us to tie ourselves down to any thoughts or people or situations that don’t feel appropriate anymore. ❤️

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    1. Amen to that Marilyn, I totally agree with your statement ❤️ it feels so liberating to let go of things that don’t feel appropriate to you anymore. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, I wish you the very best on your journey 🥰

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  23. Bold steps are taken to hit that delete button! I feel like a proud parent reading your post. lol

    Standing on my feet in the crowd shouting:

    Good for you!
    Bravo!

    It definitely encouraged me to hit the delete button on some things in my life that don’t bring me joy, and I started thinking, “Is there anything ELSE I need to delete today?”
    Thanks for that! Be blessed!

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    1. Aww thanks so much Dawn 🥰 I’m happy that you see the value in removing things from your life that don’t bring you any joy. I hope it’s as helpful to you as it was to me. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and I wish you the very best on your journey ❤️

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  24. I’ve deleted a couple blogs through the years and started over. It felt so freeing.

    I think now I’m working on deleting things that suck my time away. Things that take my focus off what matters most to me. It’s a process.

    Happy Holidays!

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    1. Hi Rebecca! I’m happy that your working on removing the things that take away your time and focus, I can totally relate! I’ve been doing it all year and it feels great to get rid of distractions. Minimalism has definitely been helpful in this area and I’m so grateful to have started practicing it at the beginning of the year. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and I wish you well on your journey ❤️☺️

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    2. Count me in on that. My father died earlier this year. I am grateful for having him as long as I did. But his loss has hammered home what you are saying: time sponges literally suck the life out of us. I want something to show for my efforts.

      I do not delete old blogs. I start new ones with a different email address. Old ones let me know who I was and what I thought at some point. New ones let me grow in new directions. But as long as WordPress continues, and as long as my work is up, some piece can survive me once I go the way of my father.

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  25. Wow. I am not sure that I am ready to delete everything and start again from scratch, but your wonderful posting really prompted me to stop and think about my life at the present moment. In so many aspects of my life I am holding on to things that tie me to the past. It’s comfortable that way, but it also can be constraining. Your bold choice serves as a good reminder that a drastic change can be liberating. Thanks so much for sharing your journey with us all.

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    1. Your welcome Mike, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts ❤️ I can relate to holding onto things that tie me to the past but I managed to let most of those things go and feel so free and liberated. Happy holidays and I wish you well on your journey 🥰

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  26. Great idea. My blog is just a collection of random thoughts atm. I may just follow your lead. What would I delete about my life? Nothing at all, it makes me who I am today. There are things I would like not have happened but, like chaos theory, the result might be a different me.

    Have a great holiday and a successful year ahead.

    John.

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    1. Thank you so much John, I’m happy that your content with your life as it is. I can learn a lot from that statement. Happy holidays and I wish you the very best on your journey! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts ❤️☺️

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  27. Happy new start😇 reading this reminded me of myself sometime not far from now😷 I forgot that I have an account on WordPress believe it or not! When I tried to register yesterdsy to create my first site or blog it said: you are already registred!😮 well! Now seems like a good sign for me😇 through my journey I had to delete everything that didn’t sound the Right one for me and start all over again. The start might be from many points but the result should be the one you have been looking for 🌷 I totally agree with you💐 hve a great fresh start dear✌

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