Hi friends, how are you doing? As 2018 comes to an end I’ve been reflecting on all the things I’ve experienced this year starting from the month of January. It would have been nice to keep a journal to document everything I learned but I never manage to write in one on a consistent basis. I figured that since I have my blog now (which is basically like my online journal), I will have the chance to start writing and summarizing everything I experience each month. I will call them journal entries.
Note: I think that is also the beauty of having a journal because after many months or years you can return and visit old memories.
Without further ado I thought it would be a nice mental exercise to list all the lessons I’ve learned this year, as I remember them:
1. You are much stronger than you think. The earlier months of 2018 were by far the toughest of my life. I remember entering the year with so much pain, anxiety and resentment in my heart that sometimes it was very difficult for me to function. I also remember that led to a series of unfortunate events that forced me to find my inner strength. Sometimes there will be situations that arise and call for you to be a stronger version of yourself than you realized existed, but trust me it’s there. Thanks to the earlier months for showing me just how strong I am and that there is nothing that can bring me down in this world if I tap into the unlimited energy supply of love, faith and hopefulness. I also learned just how powerful negative thoughts are and how damaging it is to remain in a state like that.
2. Leaving unhealthy friendships in the past. This year has been the tipping point for me. It’s the year I decided to embrace minimalism with all I had and eventually when I was done decluttering the material things, I was forced to look at the relationships in my life and how they were affecting me. My happiness and sanity matter the most to me and when I feel like they have been compromised, that is when I decide to cut the cord from anyone and anything that threatens them. I’m ending the year feeling much happier and ready for change because I decided to leave unhealthy friendships in the past.
3. Finding happiness and purpose. Despite the rocky start I had to 2018 I’m in a much better place right now. When I let go of fear my life opened up to better things, one of which is my blog. I had literally quit on my writing and was wondering day and night what I was supposed to do in life and what was my purpose. It was all worry and confusion until one day I woke up to a random message from one of my friends that told me an old friend of mine from high school, who had been reading and following my older blogs (the ones I had quit years earlier), was wondering why I stopped posting and basically encouraged me to start writing again because she really loved my posts and said I was good at it. To me that sounded like the sign I had been waiting for all along. Since then I took all the steps I needed to start blogging again and here I am five months later, doing what I love with zero intentions of ever quitting again.
4. Learning to love and forgive others. One of my major struggles this year was letting go of resentment. It was only until these last few months that I’d seen just how damaging resentment can be. It’s like why hold on to destructive negative thoughts and memories when you could be thinking happy thoughts and building the life of your dreams? It’s really ridiculous if you think about it and very unfair to you. So I did myself a favor and decided to let people who hurt me go. It wasn’t easy but I’ve seen and learned that life knows how to teach people who mistreated you in a way that they will understand that what they did was wrong. The same goes for you (and I) if you mistreat anyone. I’ve learned that no matter what someone does to you it’s not their actions that are important but how you react to them. Their actions are a reflection of who they are (which has nothing to do with you), whereas your actions and reactions are a reflection of your own character.
5. “Your still young, enjoy your life and follow your dreams.” If I could count the number of times people have uttered these exact words to me, I would have several limbs on my body. Okay maybe I’m exaggerating but these words have made me realize that I want to do so many things before I have children and a husband. It has only been 5 months since I started my blog and I feel like I can make something of it if I just keep going at it and learning more. I would be completely disappointed with myself if I reached 50 years old and never got the chance to follow and pursue my dreams because I ignored all the signs I was given in 2018.
I hope you learned something from my experiences this year. I’m really excited about 2019 because I feel like I’m heading into it with a whole new set of life skills and experiences that are leading me to a better version of myself. But before I go I have a few questions for you? Do you have any important life lessons or experiences you learned this year? Do you mind sharing them? Have your experiences helped change who you are as a person? Tell me how? Please feel free to share, your thoughts are always welcome here! Thank you so much for reading and see you in my next post.