five life lessons I learned in 2018

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Hi friends, how are you doing? As 2018 comes to an end I’ve been reflecting on all the things I’ve experienced this year starting from the month of January. It would have been nice to keep a journal to document everything I learned but I never manage to write in one on a consistent basis. I figured that since I have my blog now (which is basically like my online journal), I will have the chance to start writing and summarizing everything I experience each month. I will call them journal entries.

Note: I think that is also the beauty of having a journal because after many months or years you can return and visit old memories.

Without further ado I thought it would be a nice mental exercise to list all the lessons I’ve learned this year, as I remember them:

1. You are much stronger than you think. The earlier months of 2018 were by far the toughest of my life. I remember entering the year with so much pain, anxiety and resentment in my heart that sometimes it was very difficult for me to function. I also remember that led to a series of unfortunate events that forced me to find my inner strength. Sometimes there will be situations that arise and call for you to be a stronger version of yourself than you realized existed, but trust me it’s there. Thanks to the earlier months for showing me just how strong I am and that there is nothing that can bring me down in this world if I tap into the unlimited energy supply of love, faith and hopefulness. I also learned just how powerful negative thoughts are and how damaging it is to remain in a state like that.

2. Leaving unhealthy friendships in the past. This year has been the tipping point for me. It’s the year I decided to embrace minimalism with all I had and eventually when I was done decluttering the material things, I was forced to look at the relationships in my life and how they were affecting me. My happiness and sanity matter the most to me and when I feel like they have been compromised, that is when I decide to cut the cord from anyone and anything that threatens them. I’m ending the year feeling much happier and ready for change because I decided to leave unhealthy friendships in the past.

3. Finding happiness and purpose. Despite the rocky start I had to 2018 I’m in a much better place right now. When I let go of fear my life opened up to better things, one of which is my blog. I had literally quit on my writing and was wondering day and night what I was supposed to do in life and what was my purpose. It was all worry and confusion until one day I woke up to a random message from one of my friends that told me an old friend of mine from high school, who had been reading and following my older blogs (the ones I had quit years earlier), was wondering why I stopped posting and basically encouraged me to start writing again because she really loved my posts and said I was good at it. To me that sounded like the sign I had been waiting for all along. Since then I took all the steps I needed to start blogging again and here I am five months later, doing what I love with zero intentions of ever quitting again.

4. Learning to love and forgive others. One of my major struggles this year was letting go of resentment. It was only until these last few months that I’d seen just how damaging resentment can be. It’s like why hold on to destructive negative thoughts and memories when you could be thinking happy thoughts and building the life of your dreams? It’s really ridiculous if you think about it and very unfair to you. So I did myself a favor and decided to let people who hurt me go. It wasn’t easy but I’ve seen and learned that life knows how to teach people who mistreated you in a way that they will understand that what they did was wrong. The same goes for you (and I) if you mistreat anyone. I’ve learned that no matter what someone does to you it’s not their actions that are important but how you react to them. Their actions are a reflection of who they are (which has nothing to do with you), whereas your actions and reactions are a reflection of your own character.

5. “Your still young, enjoy your life and follow your dreams.” If I could count the number of times people have uttered these exact words to me, I would have several limbs on my body. Okay maybe I’m exaggerating but these words have made me realize that I want to do so many things before I have children and a husband. It has only been 5 months since I started my blog and I feel like I can make something of it if I just keep going at it and learning more. I would be completely disappointed with myself if I reached 50 years old and never got the chance to follow and pursue my dreams because I ignored all the signs I was given in 2018.

Final thoughts.

I hope you learned something from my experiences this year. I’m really excited about 2019 because I feel like I’m heading into it with a whole new set of life skills and experiences that are leading me to a better version of myself. But before I go I have a few questions for you? Do you have any important life lessons or experiences you learned this year? Do you mind sharing them? Have your experiences helped change who you are as a person? Tell me how? Please feel free to share, your thoughts are always welcome here! Thank you so much for reading and see you in my next post.

 

83 thoughts on “five life lessons I learned in 2018

  1. My blogging habit is to be as brief as I can; to only post when I have anything significant to say; and to post at least once a week and not more than twice a day. This varies, depending on what’s going on for me.

    Have a good life,
    Bob

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  2. Nice to meet you, Words by Wildflower. Great post I have had an interesting year, one with many unsettling changes, and I think the major thing I have learnt is about acceptance of things we can’t control, and that our view is just that, our view, not anyone else’s so we can be accepting of other’s perspectives and choices, because it is their view. We can empathise but we can never walk int their shoes. Most people just do the best they can. Best wishes over the festive season!

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    1. Thank you very much for sharing ❤️ and I can relate to what your saying that we can’t change things that are out of our control we can only accept them. This has helped me to also worry less because I feel everything works out for our own good in the end.

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  3. Excellent post! Seems like you are on the right track to living a magnificent and fulfilling life. Congratulations 🙂

    I just read through some of your earlier posts on this blog and found myself wanting to comment on all of them! Alas, the comments are closed. So I shall just have to say it here:

    You show great wisdom and skillful self-reflection, and I enjoy reading your writing. Thank you for sharing your journey. You have love and support wherever you go, so long as you remember Who You Are.

    Infinite Love,
    Devin The Mindful Mage

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  4. Hello wildflower 🙂 I wanted to write something about the meaning of blogging because you posed the question ‘how often to post?’ and then ‘what have we learnt in the last year?’ I’m enjoying reading your thoughts and the other bloggers who have added theirs. What I learnt was to let go. And my blogging reflects this. I used to love using it as a tool to create, a reason to write something or take a fresh photo or series but somehow I noticed that I was getting caught up in the dopamine rush when people liked my posts. I got tired of my own little mind game and began posting sporadically. Not sure why I shared that with you haha. Have an awesome end of the year and new year! 🙂

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    1. Hi Jenni! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I’m happy that you learned how to let go this year, I’m currently learning how to do this as well. As for posting, I can totally relate to what your saying because I used to use my blog as a tool to create only for the sake of getting people to like and comment but now I write because I genuinely love to share about things I’ve learned and interested in that people can relate to. I’m happy that posting sporadically works for you and I wish you well in your journey ❤️☺️

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  5. I am glad that your year turned out to be much better than it seemed in the beginning. I think in the end it is up to you what you make of any given situation, even if you have a bad year and a lot of negative things happening, when you decide to look at adversity as a lesson that makes things 100% better. Which is exactly what you did!
    I think the biggest lesson I have learnt this year is to slow down and understand that things take time and also to better understand other people and their feelings & opinions and learn to value them better. I am very stubborn and when I decide about a situation and its solution it is hard for me to accept that others might think differently and that sometimes there are numerous solutions but through a very nurturing relationship with my partner this year, I’ve learnt to better understand this, him as well as others.
    I wish I perceived 25 as being young, since I am also ‘only’ 25 but it dawned on me this year that I am not where I thought I’d be by this age. Hopefully in 2019 I will change my mind..

    thank you for this post !

    xx

    Anna
    My London and Beyond

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    1. Hi Anna! Thanks so much for this wonderful response ❤️ I’m so happy that you learned to understand your partner and others more despite the differences in how you relate and understand certain situations. I too try my best to think and feel how others perceive a situation so that we can all be on the same page. As for learning lessons in adversity yes I totally agree with you. It makes what you went through so much better because at least you can learn from where you went wrong. And I’m also not where I thought I would be at 25 but I’ve come to understand that everyone’s journey is different and just because I haven’t reached where I want to be doesn’t mean it’s never going to happen. I hope that helps ❤️ thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and I wish you well on your journey ☺️

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  6. Sounds like what while you struggled this year; those experiences helped you grow as a person. You should be proud that you are so insightful. And I just can’t get over in 5 months; you have managed to gain so many followers and reached so many people; you should be very proud. I look forward to reading more of your posts!! I hope 2019 is a wonderful year for year. Keep writing and inspiring others!

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  7. Hi! I was looking for some inspiration regarding the holidays and new year when I decided to come to wordpress and search from ‘2019’. I saw your post on consistency, but comments were closed, so I came here. I agree with the idea that we should be more consistent in our lives, especially when you’re in school like me – keeping my grades as consistent as possible will help me greatly in achieving higher scores at the end of the year. I recently have come to understand the importance of cutting unhealthy people out of my life. I know now to live for myself, and not for others. While I wish I had a little more freedom in my life, I know it will come soon with growing older and gaining independence. Plus, I am learning that even though I may not have my own house yet or anything, there are still little things I can do to shape a life that is mine, seperate from my parents. Wow, putting that in words was really helpful, actually…

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    1. Aww I’m so happy that your starting to shape your own life while your still young. I’m 25 and just starting to figure things out so I’m really happy for you. I wish you well on your journey and thank you very much for sharing your thoughts ❤️☺️

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  8. The beginning of my 2018 looked very similar to yours. What I learned was that life is full of uncertainties. I’ve always known this in my head but I had never really experienced it and this year I was forced to deal with life’s uncertainties, which completely left me exposed and out of control. But I am so glad (not really for the pain) but I really felt God’s goodness for myself without having to be ushered into it.

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  9. I reached 50 before I started to follow my dreams. Before that, it was more of a fantasy I thought I could never live. I guess because I believed I couldn’t do it. I wish I had believed in myself earlier but if there is one lesson I have learnt this last year is that it is never too late.

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    1. Wow that is so beautiful. I’m happy that you started your journey on following your dreams no matter what age. Thank you for sharing and reminding all of us that it’s never too late to go for your dreams. Much love to you ❤️

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  10. Thank you for the positive posts you bring to the internet💻 Will done on a fantastic year of growth!
    My biggest lesson this year was, “I can live my own dreams. I don’t have to follow the expectations people have of me.” It sounds pretty basic, but I have had to switch my mentality and I feel so much better now😊 I look forward to 2019, too✨🎉

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  11. This year for me was all about facing my fears and doing all the things I wanted to do but afraid to do. It has been all about taking chances without fearing the outcome. I must say it turned out great. In knowing that life is short I managed to live life to the fullest and be haply despite the bad things that may occur.

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  12. Thank you for sharing! It can be tough to open up. I appreciate your time and sharing with us your lessons, something all of us can read and learn from. I’m sure at the start of the new year we will all reflect on the past and be full of excitement to start the new year! Thank you.

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  13. I love that you’ve got me thinking about this. What have I learned? Good question. I’m going to sit on it and see what pops up. I feel like I’ve popped up, out of the muck. My last two years have been not unlike this last year for you. It’s a wild ride, hey?! We made it ❤

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    1. Yes we certainly did. This year has been full of some much needed lessons and experiences. I’m glad it’s got you thinking hopefully you can share some of your experiences too. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts ❤️🥰

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  14. I learned a lot. I started this year off very unhappy, as I had just split from a woman I spent two and a half years of my life with. It was heartbreaking. I was hurt, depressed, lonely, and worst of all, I had no idea what to do with myself.
    In March, I met another girl who rocked my world, she was brilliant, smart, and gorgeous. But as all things do, we split up. I wasn’t upset, we didn’t last too long, but the connection was always there for me.
    Unfortunately, I treated her horribly after the break up. I’m ashamed to even admit how bad I was to her. She was starting to drift away, I realized it, but instead of cracking into shape, I mistreated her more. I didn’t call her names, or hit her, I was just rude in the way I spoke.
    She took a trip one week, and said : “In five days I want to know what you’re doing with your life.” So I scrambled to think of something, but partway through, I decided to start my blog. Ultimately, this was what helped shape me into the man I was destined to become later in the year.
    A few months into being a “blogger” I received the awful news that my dear friend, didn’t want me in her life anymore. I should have seen it coming, but I was blinded. This hurt me, because I knew it was my fault. She told me: “Learn from this Mistake.” and from that moment, I’ve tried to build myself into the person I want my kids to look up too.
    I heard a story, and it goes: “When I die and reach the afterlife, I want God to meet me and introduce me to myself, with the words “This is who you were meant to become.” and when I meet him, we’re the same person. To me, Hell is meeting that person, and having them be unrecognizable.”

    Today, at the end of the year, I look back and I can see the mistakes I made, and how I’ve tried to atone for them. Obviously, I can never get my friend back, but my life has a purpose now, and I’m glad I finally found it.
    There are so many obstacles we’ve got to overcome, and I could sit around and cry because I’ve fallen twenty times, or I could get up and try again. I chose to get up.
    For the first time in my life, I feel genuinely at peace and happy with the way things are. Life is very good.

    (The girl and I spoke on my Birthday, and she’s very happy with my growth, and extremely happy to see that I’m happy.)

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    1. Wow, this is a very wonderful story, thank you so much for sharing it! I’m so happy that you have come to a peaceful place after all you have been through and even better that you started on this blogging journey. It seems there’s a good number of us who’ve really found inner happiness with our blogs. And it’s unfortunate about your situation with your friend and the other girl, however the most important thing is that you acknowledge that you were wrong in your behavior and you’ve taken the steps to become much better. I don’t know you personally but I want to say that I’m proud of you just from reading your story. It takes courage to openly admire you were wrong but also have the strength to strive to become better. Keep it up and I hope things work out for you in the future. Again thanks so much for sharing this ❤️🥰

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    1. I can totally relate to how you feel about forgiveness but I found that it made me feel very sad to not let go and it was also a distraction because I was always thinking about the person and what they did to me. I figured it wasn’t worth my energy anymore and I’m a firm believer that karma is very real. I hope some day you can let go of who/what hurt you. All the best on your journey and thank you so much for sharing ❤️🥰

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  15. Beautifully written! I feel that I am on a similar journey. I’m happy for you finding your way to a more fulfilling life. ♥️ sharing about it really helps others wanting the same for their lives. 😊

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  16. So many wonderful thoughts and words. You make me feel glad to be alive.

    In terms of what I have learned this year? Two things stand out. First, I have the ability to write that I always hoped I might have; and second, children bring their own unrestrained joy into the world and happily share it without conditions.

    Have a great year ahead. We will be following you with interest.

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    1. Aww thank you so much, that is very kind of you! I’m happy that you learned you have the ability to write, that is also one of my many joys, to be able to express myself through words. And yes that is the most delightful thing about children, they’re happiness is so inspiring to those around them. Thank you so much for your thoughts and thank you so much for your words, I wish you well on your creative journey ❤️☺️

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